Art Of Kissing…!!! August 10, 2007
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Make every day a valentine’s day. Learn the art of kissing.. way to girl’s heart
Art Of Kissing
Health Risk factors and life style modification August 10, 2007
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Discover the 90/10 Principle….. July 27, 2007
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Author: Stephen Covey
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? ……….By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don’t let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let’s use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is “D”.
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don’t be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don’t have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
Enjoy….
Just Three WORDS May 28, 2007
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There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have sourerd.
The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.
1. Let me help
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.
2. I understand you
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know – in so many little ways – that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.
3. I respect you
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.
4. I miss you
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you.” This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say “I miss you.”
5. Maybe you’re right
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when you say “maybe you’re right” is the humility of admitting, “maybe I’m wrong”. Let’s face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you normally do is solidify the other person’s point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying “maybe you’re right” can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.
6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
7. I thank you
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating “you can count on me.”
9. I’ll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there.” Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don’t try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams.
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Glossary of Type of Friendships May 25, 2007
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blood brotherhood – the most ancient ritual of committed friendship, found around the world in tribal communities; it may be the ancestor of most other ritual friendships. The ceremony entailed two friends making small cuts in each other’s arms and exchanging small quantities of blood, symbolizing lifelong union.
Boston marriage – refers to a type of romantic friendship practiced by American 19th-century feminists; these romantic friends moved in together long-term and aided each other in political activism and household tasks. Straight women as well as “lesbians” engaged in Boston marriage; sexuality was not considered to be part of the relationship, although some closeted lesbians probably did call their relationships Boston marriages.
chosen families – friends who treat each other as family. This term was developed in the American queer and feminist communities, to describe strong friendships that were formed by lesbians and gays who were disowned by their blood families. Chosen family is usually considered to be a modern and “innovative” form of family, as well as something that is most important to people whose blood families have deserted them. Connections are rarely made to the artificial kinships of the last several millennia, such as compadrazgo, godparenthood, gossipry, or blood-brotherhood, and so Americans do not realize how traditional these relationships are.
classical friendship – the practice of intensely emotional same-sex friendship during Greek and Roman times. Although bisexuality was also practiced in these cultures, “most ancient friendships were not, in fact, erotic” (John Boswell).
romantic friendship – the practice of intensely emotional and physically tender friendship (usually, but not always, same-sex). Typically, romantic friendship allows friends to kiss, hold hands, write sappy and emotional letters, promise lifelong devotion, and snuggle or sleep together nonsexually. Customs vary depending on the nation or time period. Romantic friendship is not considered to be sexual by its practitioners and is practiced in both virulently homophobic and less-homophobic cultures. Romantic friendship began in the Renaissance, as a reawakening of classical friendship; it was practiced in America until 1880 for men and 1910 for women; and continues to be practiced to some degree in Eastern Europe, Italy, some parts of Asia, the Middle East, and Latin America. In some periods, it was considered possible or desirable for romantic friends to set up a permanent household together.
sexualized friendship – friendship in which sex is occasionally allowed. Although technically, this can be done for whatever reason the friends choose, in modern America it is usually practiced by queer or “alternative” groups, or by young couples who don’t want a marital or “boyfriend/girlfriend” type commitment. One common reason for it is the unfortunate belief by “alternative” people (polyamorists, for example) that sex is necessary to “intimacy,” or that not having sex indicates “repression.” However, it may also be practiced just because those involved want to.This is as same as “Fuck-Buddies”.
